On a subject close to my heart right now, even if I’m a bit behind schedule – “The holidays are here, and so are uncomfortably racist conversations with family!“
The entire article is worth a read, but especially this:
“Remember, you have no duty to stand by and be offended because of some obligation to your [significant other]. A good partner would want you to be comfortable and be able to be yourself.”
I’d add that the important thing is to know that you don’t have to keep quiet, even if that’s what you decide to do. Because knowing that you don’t have to and doing so anyway makes it a positive action on your part, and not something that you let happen to you. And therein lies all the difference in the world.